Can We Really Have It All?
The messaging surrounds us; almost daily we are bombarded with self-help articles that appear on our social media and magazine covers that imply you can “have it all.” And, more damaging, imply that if you don’t “have it all” that there is something wrong. But can you truly possess a full work-life balance, where your family is happy all the time and your work life hums along swimmingly?
Some experts and executives think the balance we all seek is a mythical unicorn and that maybe “having it all” isn’t what it’s cracked up to be. Instead, of searching for the perfect balance, decide what you’re willing to forego to spend more time on the activities and people that are most important.
Determine Your Personal Priorities
Take the time to contemplate and evaluate your real priorities and rank by the level of importance. Everyone has a unique set of values that differ from one person to the next. Over the course of your life, priorities will shift. For example, your kids grow up and have different activities or perhaps you suddenly have to handle the care of an older relative. An office reorganization could create a less supportive environment or you may have to travel more to a newly acquired company.
When the inevitable interrupts your best laid plans, step back, and reprioritize. Never feel the need to justify or apologize for your core principles. Create a “Don’t Look Back” code. The past is all over. Make your decisions and strive to achieve a work-life balance that you can honestly stick to for the long haul.
It’s Not What You Do But How You Do It
How are you spending your time at work and play? Are you constantly on your phone checking emails when you have blocked out quality play time with your children? Set a timer and put away your phone for 20 minutes to start, and gradually increase the time 5-10 minutes as needed.
Are there time management issues at the office you can overcome? Are meetings running too long without any resolution? Create agendas and stick to the deadlines you create. As a bonus, your co-workers will appreciate having more time to work on their personal work-life balance.
Continue to keep in mind your core values to determine what opportunities you will pursue and what you feel you can gracefully decline. Perhaps a volunteer commitment is becoming too time-consuming and is better left behind. Let go of being a “yes” person all the time.
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